I’m new to the world of non-monogamy. Is there some kind of guide book I should read? It seems like there’s a lot of room to make mistakes, and I would love to know how to avoid them before getting anyone else involved. Are there rules that you think all non-monogamous folks should follow?

Do you think that a relationship can survive if someone cheats? Isn’t there a pretty good chance that they’ll do it again? And if you’re the one who cheated, won’t the guilt make it impossible to move on?

I’m totally comfortable talking to someone about my sexual issues. I just don’t know who I should reach out to. What’s the difference between a sex coach and a sex therapist? What about sexual surrogates? Do they really have sex with their patients?

So my question is, how do we create the culture we want to live in? What actions can we take to make our world a safer place to exist for everyone, regardless of age, sex, race, class, ability, gender identity, or sexual orientation?

I have always had problems with coming too fast. It doesn’t happen in every sexual encounter, but it still happens way more than I would like. I know there are ways to desensitize myself, like doubling up on condoms, but I still want to feel something. Is there anything else I can try?

My boyfriend and I have pretty vanilla sex. It’s good, but I would like to try and spice things up. I think he would be interested, too, I just don’t know how to talk about it with him - especially when it comes to the kinkier stuff. How should I approach this?

I'm interested in polyamory, and I recently attended a meet-up to get to know more non-monogamous people. Everyone was nice, but a lot of the time, I had no idea what they were talking about! There seems to be a whole other language: compersion, unicorns, kitchen table…

My only experience with anal sex was a long time ago, and it was very uncomfortable. I would like to try again, and my partner is on board. What can we do to make things more enjoyable this time around?

I’ve been with my partner for five years. When we first got together, we had sex three or four times a week, and it seemed like our libidos were pretty evenly matched. In the last year, I’ve found myself initiating sex and getting shot down a lot.

My partner wants me to spank her, but I don’t know the best way to go about it. Do I just use my hands? What other things can I try that will hurt - in a good way, not a bad way?

My boyfriend and I started our relationship as a vanilla one, though he was already a submissive. At first, he was seeing someone else to meet his kink needs, but we started to have femdom experiences together…

What are strategies for a monogamous partner to manage jealousy and insecurity in a relationship with a polyamorous relationship anarchist?

I have never found a partner that creatively matched me, or that has my sex drive, that wasn’t a fuckboy. Am I doomed?

I’m a bi cis female with a wife. We are planning a threesome with a man in two weeks. How do I practice the safest sex possible? I’m not on birth control.

I have been married for nine years, and ten years ago I got hurt on the job. I pinched my spinal cord and I can’t perform like I did before I got hurt. I tried pills, but I still have trouble and my wife does most of the work…

I was wondering if you could speak a little bit about how sex and sexuality help people overcome things, such as sexual abuse. It would be really helpful for me because it works in my life, but I don’t know why.

I’m a 41-year-old male having issues with erectile dysfunction. I’m dating a very attractive 23-year-old woman. I’ve taken Viagra in past encounters, but it’s not working with her.

My boyfriend and I have been together for eight years. We have great sex and have dabbled in anal, but he refuses to have sex with me during my period. It grosses him out. How do we overcome this?

Even women I’ve slept with text me back after a number of messages with no response, something along the lines of “Can’t you take a hint? I’m not interested.” It kinda turns on a dime. Is there something I can be doing better or is this just a “she doesn’t want to drink the tea anymore” situation?

Do you think we live in a rape culture? If so, do women contribute to rape culture? And my “real” question: if so, how? WARNING: Discussion of sexual trauma.