I’m new to the world of non-monogamy. Is there some kind of guide book I should read? It seems like there’s a lot of room to make mistakes, and I would love to know how to avoid them before getting anyone else involved. Are there rules that you think all non-monogamous folks should follow?

Do you think that a relationship can survive if someone cheats? Isn’t there a pretty good chance that they’ll do it again? And if you’re the one who cheated, won’t the guilt make it impossible to move on?

I’m totally comfortable talking to someone about my sexual issues. I just don’t know who I should reach out to. What’s the difference between a sex coach and a sex therapist? What about sexual surrogates? Do they really have sex with their patients?

So my question is, how do we create the culture we want to live in? What actions can we take to make our world a safer place to exist for everyone, regardless of age, sex, race, class, ability, gender identity, or sexual orientation?

I have always had problems with coming too fast. It doesn’t happen in every sexual encounter, but it still happens way more than I would like. I know there are ways to desensitize myself, like doubling up on condoms, but I still want to feel something. Is there anything else I can try?

My boyfriend and I have pretty vanilla sex. It’s good, but I would like to try and spice things up. I think he would be interested, too, I just don’t know how to talk about it with him - especially when it comes to the kinkier stuff. How should I approach this?