Why hire a Sex Coach?

This is a non-exhaustive list of the most common areas of focus for sex coaching. They can shift or be combined during the course of our work together.

IDENTITY EXPLORATION

Gender and sexuality exist on a spectrum, and fluidity is part of that spectrum for many of us. If you are coming into a new identity or experiencing a shift in the way you perceive yourself, I would be honored to join you on that journey. If shame is showing up for you, because of societal expectations, family of origin, or religion, we can work together to let it know that it is no longer welcome.

KINK AND NON-MONOGAMY

Folks who want to explore kink and BDSM or non-monogamy (swinging, polyamory, etc.) can often feel at a loss for where to start. What if you don’t even know what you like? How do you talk about it with your partner? How do you meet like-minded people? How do you stay safe? I have both therapeutic and lived experience to help you approach this with knowledge and a sense of joyful curiosity.

SEXUAL CHALLENGES

Issues like orgasm difficulty, performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, early ejaculation, porn dependence, and low libido are often viewed through the lens of pathology. I take a holistic approach to these concerns to ensure that I get a full picture of your life, rather than just addressing the symptoms. Home assignments, mindfulness techniques, and referrals can all be part of our co-created action plan.

MISMATCHED DESIRE

The odds of maintaining perfectly synchronized sex drives over the course of a relationship, especially a long one, are incredibly slim. A common scenario is one in which the higher desire partner feels rejected, the lower desire partner feels guilty, and both partners feel resentful. If not addressed, it can lead to touch aversion or a complete loss of sexual intimacy. In collaboration, we can identify a space where everyone’s needs can be heard, understood, and met.

COMMUNICATION

Talking about sex and desire can be awkward for even the most emotionally connected partners. That’s because all communication takes practice, and for most of us, this kind of communication was never taught. Since our communication needs are informed by our attachment styles, love languages, cultural backgrounds, and more, it can require gentle guidance to better understand ourselves and those we are in a relationship with.

CONFLICT RESOLUTION

It’s great to have a trusted professional in your corner before conflict arises, but the truth is that we often reach out when we’ve already hit a breaking point. I can help you get over rough spots and disagreements with judgment-free support, repair and rebuild after a betrayal, or provide mediation for couples who are in transition.