Ask Sex Coach Leigh: Erectile dysfunction

Q: I’m a 41 year old male having issues with erectile dysfunction. I’m dating a very attractive 23 year old woman. I’ve taken Viagra in past encounters, but it’s not working with her. There is plenty of kissing, touching, and oral sex. She turns me on and I want to take that next step, but I have yet to get an erection with her. When I masturbate, I’m always thinking about her. I don’t use Viagra to masturbate, though I did try using it again with her the other day and still didn’t get an erection. Any suggestions?

Hi lovely! Erectile issues can be frustrating and confusing, especially when they feel unpredictable. But I want to validate something for you: difficulty getting or maintaining an erection does NOT mean that you’re not attracted to your partner, or that you are not enjoying your sexual interactions. Erectile dysfunction, or ED, is common, and there are a number of things that can contribute to it. So let’s look at the different possibilities, and what can be done about them.
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