Q: My boyfriend and I started our relationship as a vanilla one, though he was already a submissive. At first he was seeing someone else to meet his kink needs, but we started to have femdom experiences together and he stopped seeing his Mistress. Now he’s saying that what we do isn’t enough, and he wants to explore more of the femdom world and be free to have other partners. I’m at a loss, because I feel denied as a Domme and also like I’m not good enough. I was expecting that it would just be the two of us, and now I’m not sure what to think. I’m not even sure what I’m afraid of. How can I manage this in a healthy way?
Hi lovely! It makes sense that this is bringing up a lot of insecurity for you. You had a vision for your relationship, and now your boyfriend has revealed something that is threatening to that vision. I think there are two things to consider here: how this would affect your kink dynamic, and how this would affect the future of your romantic relationship.